What not to say to a new mom
“Oh, but didn’t you want a girl/boy?”
-My child didn’t take requests in the womb, or come with a
receipt to exchange him for a different model. God decided I needed a son and
God hasn’t let me down yet! I LOVE being a boy mom! I even whispered to Chris
seconds before finding out Carter was a boy, “I hope it’s a boy!” give me all the little boys!!
“You’re not going back to work are you? I couldn’t, I’d miss
my baby too much.”
-hmm, I think ALL moms miss their child when their
away, not just you. Some moms have to work, some moms enjoy their work, some
moms have the means to stay home and not return to work. I returned back to
work part-time and I really enjoy the balance I have with that decision. And
yes, I miss my son tons when I’m away!
“When are you having another one?”
-Is that an offer to babysit?! It’s a pretty common question
some days it’s “yes!” and some days it’s “ugh, ask me another day when I’ve
slept more or didn’t lose a battle with a spoon full of greek yogurt with my
toddler.”
“You’re breastfeeding, right?”
-These questions feel more like accusations than questions… "My
child is well-fed, happy, and healthy thank you.” As a mother who made it over 10 months of exclusively breastfeeding and I can honestly say I understand why moms give
their child a bottle. It’s a sort subject and a loaded question to most
mothers, please know our children are happy, heathy, and eating well.
“oh wow, you look tired!”
-Thanks! You’re so sweet to point that out! Not...
“If you think it’s hard now, just wait!”
-Lets be encouraging rather than discouraging about this whole
parenting deal. Every season of parenting feels like the best and the hardest
both at the same time. Let’s focus on the good stuff in every season.
“Don’t hold your baby so much/you should let him cry, so you
don’t spoil him”
-I couldn’t believe how many people told me this. Are you
kidding me?! The best way to connect with your baby is to be constantly
holding, hugging, cuddling, and smoothing them! I dare you to find me a
specialist that says other wise. I dare you.
What you SHOULD say:
“Can I bring you a meal or Starbucks?”
-Yes, yes, a million times yes!
“That’s totally normal!”
-Please don’t add to my ever growing anxiety, please reassure
me!
Don’t say anything!
-Just let me vent and cry on your shoulder.
-Just let me vent and cry on your shoulder.
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